In my opinion, mommies walk a fine line when sharing with others about their parenting and children. On one hand, you have the mother who can only complain about her kids to others. On the other hand you have the seemingly perfect mother who bakes organic cookies weekly. Between those extremes lies the truth. In this age of everything on the internet; facebook, blogs, twitter etc. All of our “stuff” is pretty much out there. I think it’s important to be aware of what your online persona displays. For me, I tend to generally be positive and share the fun and happy things for two reasons 1.) I like to think I am mostly a positive person and 2.) its very hard for me to say negative things about mothering without guilt. That is one of the infertility scars I carry. It doesn’t seem right or fair to say something negative about something I wanted for so long. I also am sensitive to those mothers waiting to be mothers who (I remember all too well) feel pain to hear a mother complain when all they want in the world is to have children. However, I do think that when only sharing the positive you run the risk of creating an image of mothering that it is untrue and unrealistic for other mothers. That can be damaging among mothers also because we can make each other feel inferior with our polished up stories of mothering. So with that said, I am going to share my last few days….the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Maya has not been herself for any number of reasons (she has been sick, she has a new baby brother, she is sharing the spotlight, mommy is tired, daddy is tired, she is tired, (etc)…oh, and did I mention mommy is tired?????
For some mad reason, I decided to work a little on potty training. I had no plans to push her, but just thought we would see. That evening ended in disaster. She wants to sit on the potty but constantly wants to get up from it, and so we have an endless battle of staying on the potty or putting a diaper or panties on. She also is freaked out by the feeling of panties and every time I put them on her she screams “pee pee mommy” “I need pee pee in the potty”
This was my sick munchkin. Don’t let the cuteness fool you. She has been very particular about everything she wants and has been quite demanding of that. Any item that she wanted but couldn’t find or couldn’t have resulted in total toddler meltdown. Don’t even get me started on the number of TV shows that she has watched in the last few days.
And this guy, sleeps, eats and poops….except for at night, when he just wants to eat.
Princesses drive cars, but do not however want to clean up their toys and resort again to total toddler meltdown
and to end the night tonight…..a certain little princess was very tired from only taking about a 5 minute nap in the car, turned into total toddler meltdown when all daddy wanted to do was read her a book. I was feeding Gray watching this all unfold. When he was finished eating, I took him to change him so that I could come help wrangle said tired toddler. Low and behold Gray has had a major blowout that now covers every article of clothing I am wearing. I go to change him and hear something slam in the living room. I go running (with the baby) thinking someone has fallen or something has broken, and find that my toddler has thrown a book at the window crashing through the blinds. Again, total toddler meltdown and I am covered in poop. I put Gray in his bed so that I can get cleaned up, he screams. Daddy tries to reason with her and she screams. Both kids are screaming and I am in covered in poop, and that my friends is the good, the bad, and the ugly….
